Tom Goldstein - more about me...

Tom Goldstein in hiking clothes against an old wooden barn

MSc (Masters of Science) Psychology
PG Diploma in Behaviour change and wellbeing
Certified Life Coach (CTI - CPCC, ICF - PCC)
Enneagram and DISC personality assessments accreditation
Certificate in NLP & Positive Psychology
Trauma Informed Practitioner / Mental Health First Aid
Level 3: Eco-Psychology & Forest School Practitioner
Certified mindfulness teacher (CMT-P)
Sound Therapy Practitioner (BAST)
Somatic Informed Coaching / Certified Qi Gong Teacher
Team Coaching Certificate
Internal Family Systems / Parts Work Coaching
Systemic / Hollistic Coaching
International Mountain Leader (Accompagnateur AMM)
1600+ hours coaching experience / 1000+ hours training

"Let me support you to make real shifts in how you experience your life. I can help you explore, discover and take action; to live each and every day with meaning; to define, plan, and achieve your goals in life and in your career." - Tom Goldstein

I am continually developing my coaching tools, skills and experience.

Why me?

I do my own deep work. I attend retreats. I work with my own coaches, teachers & mentors.

I walk my talk. I live my life by my values, and endeavour to follow my own path.

I am a certified personal and professional coach (ICF PCC). I have a master’s degree in psychology, and a PGDip in systemic behaviour change and well-being. I work with clients who are motivated to find new ways of showing up, find balance, resilience, and who want to maximise their potential for success. I ask my clients to see every moment as a chance to develop and explore new perspectives.

My coaching includes leadership development, career growth, mental wellbeing, personal development, teams, sports performance, and life in general. I have coached CEOs, executives, founders, senior leaders, high potential individuals, athletes, as well as people and teams at all levels within and outside of organisations.

Before training as a coach, I spent 15 years in another career in telecoms. I started off as a hardware engineer, moving to software and then customer support and technical pre-sales - in the UK, Europe, Americas, India, and APAC. I worked for small start-ups and large multi-nationals. I was involved in building and leading global teams for more than 5 years.

In July 2015 I left my career in telecoms with the goal of exploring myself more deeply. I believe that the journey is always ongoing, and I am constantly learning and growing. In 2016 I was trained and certified by the Coach Training Institute (CTI), one of the most established and well-respected coach training schools in the world. I now works as a coach, nature connection guide, hiking guide and sound, meditation, and movement therapist.

I am passionate about learning in many different form, which has served me well. I now have more than 1200 hours coaching experience and 1000 hours training, including: coaching, NLP, systemic coaching, communication skills, leadership development, trauma, wellbeing, positive psychology, team coaching, Internal Family Systems, sound therapy, mindfulness and nature connection. I have a number of assessment tools that I also use when appropriate. This broad combination allows me to blend different techniques and tools to best suit the needs of my clients.

I have had my fair share of success throughout my life, but I have also faced my own struggles and difficult times. Like many others, I have experienced anxiety, insecurity and a lack of self belief. My friends, family and community are very important to me, they help me to stay grounded and to enjoy life. My own teachers, coaches and therapist have supported me on my journey, and I am continually grateful to them for this. Time in nature, my sports and my meditation have brought me peace and happiness in my career and my broader life.

It is important for me that I have walked the path, and continue to walk the path before I coach others to do the same. For me this means a lot of personal development, therapy, coaching and training over the past 10 years. I continually draw on this experience in my life and my coaching. As well as ongoing professional development, I regularly take part in silent meditation retreats, often based in pristine nature. I have a decade of experience with my own meditation practice and deep nature connection.

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Don't make the same personal and professional development mistake that most people make...

Most people don't have a clear picture of where they actually are right now!

🛑 Which means they can't make real progress.

It's such a common mistake to make!

🛑 Without a solid framework to understand your progress, you are probably unclear where you are actually right now, in terms of your personal and professional development.

Why is this important?

🫸 If you don't know where you are right now, how can you know what to work on?

🫸 If you don't know where you are right now, how can you measure progress?

🫸 If you don't know where you are right now, how can you know if you even need to make change?

Honestly, if you’re constantly yearning for change, yet you haven’t come to terms with where you actually are…

You’ll end up procrastinating, feeling frustrated, wasting time, and enduring all of the challenge without the satisfaction of real progress.

🌞 When I was still early in my coaching career, I took 2 weeks off to go on a climbing holiday to Greece. 🌞

I was enjoying my time on the Greek island, good food, good climbing, good friends. I was also doing a little coaching while I was there.

Once I stepped back like this, I realised that there was so much more potential to grow my coaching business.

I had been treating coaching as a hobby, rather than a career.

🔍 Without that insight, that I was treating coaching like a hobby and not a vocation, I would have carried on the status quo. 🔍

I would have missed out on the opportunity to help more people, and to build a rewarding business for myself.

Until you fully land in your reality, and completely accept and acknowledge your current situation - it's as though you are pushing forward from where you believe you are, rather than where you actually are.

When I take on a client - we always start with a landing and assessment of where you actually are.

... only then, can you finally make your move, and make real progress towards your dreams and goals.

🚀 In January I will be running an online workshop focusing on how to bring real balance to your life and work. 🚀

🌟 The Power of Balance: Nurturing All Parts of Your Life 🌟

Have you ever felt like different parts of you are pulling in opposite directions?

One part wants to achieve and do more, while another just wants to rest.

This inner push-and-pull is natural—and it’s a reminder that balance is about giving attention to all parts of who we are.

Here’s a fresh take: think of balance as tending to four key areas, each representing different “parts” of ourselves that need care and connection:

1️⃣ Creativity (Beginner’s Mind) – This is the part of us that’s curious, playful, and eager to explore. When we give it space, we bring a sense of wonder and possibility into our lives.

2️⃣ Productivity (Doing the Doing) – This is the part that thrives on action and achievement. It feels energised when we focus on meaningful work and take steps toward our goals.

3️⃣ Stepping Back (Self-Care & Introspection) – This reflective part reminds us to pause, nurture ourselves, and listen to what’s happening beneath the surface. It’s the voice that helps us slow down and realign.

4️⃣ Stopping (Rest & Wisdom) – This wise, grounded part knows the value of stillness. It reminds us that rest isn’t a luxury—it’s essential for clarity, self-acceptance, and insight.

When we honour all these parts of ourselves, we move away from inner conflict and towards harmony.

The creative part feels heard, the productive part feels purposeful, the introspective part feels valued, and the restful part feels safe to let go.

💡 Key tip: Reflect on which “part” of you feels most balanced right now? Which one could use a little extra attention.

Let’s open up the conversation—how do you balance the different parts of your life? Share your thoughts below! 👇

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As a Coach, Mountain Leader, and Vision Quest Guide. I combine the practical application of modern self-development, and ancient wisdom, to give you a transformational approach, to finding your most aligned and fulfilling life.

I’m passionate about empowering individuals, teams, and leaders to create life and work that resonates with their needs, their goals, and their truth.

How Parts Work Helped Me in Life

Parts work has completely transformed how I approach life, relationships, and personal growth.

When I was younger, my mind was always on overdrive. It constantly buzzed with ideas, analysed everything around me, and planned my every move.

While this helped me accomplish a lot, it also left me feeling drained, overwhelmed, and disconnected from the present moment.

Although I’ve never been diagnosed with ADHD, I know my mental patterns and low impulse control fit many of the traits.

In 2011, I turned to meditation in search of peace. It taught me how to quiet my thoughts and bring my mind to a place of stillness.

😶‍🌫️ This was life-changing in some ways.

I learned to suppress my overactive mind and escape the constant mental noise. Meditation also helped me build a deeper sense of self-awareness.

🤐 But over time, I realised I was shutting down a vital part of myself.

It was as if I’d locked away a powerful tool—something that could help me grow, thrive, and succeed in life.

🤯 Meditation wasn’t the whole solution. 🤯

🤠 In 2018, I discovered parts work.

Parts work taught me a different way of relating to my mind. Instead of suppressing its activity, I learned to listen to it without being swept away by it.

I realised my overactive mind wasn’t the enemy. It was there to help me—to protect, prepare, and support me in achieving my goals.

🤖 So, I stopped fighting it. Instead, I began to harness its power.

Now, I work with this active part of my mind instead of against it. It helps me anticipate challenges, find creative solutions, and think quickly when I need to.

I’ve also found balance.

I listen to the other parts of me too—the parts that crave rest, creativity, and deeper connection.

By integrating these parts, I feel more aligned, grounded, and at ease in my life.

If you struggle with overthinking, I encourage you to get curious. Instead of trying to silence those thoughts, ask yourself:

What is this part of me trying to do?
How can I work with it rather than resisting it?

For me, the key wasn’t in shutting my mind down. It was in understanding it.

Acceptance: The Ultimate Freedom

Not everyone will accept you. That’s a fact.

But here’s the truth:

Their acceptance doesn’t set you free. Your acceptance of yourself does!

When we fully accept ourself - every strength, flaw, and messy part - we stop needing others to validate us.

Self-acceptance isn’t just about confidence; it’s about freedom.

This is as true for the average person on the street as it is for the senior leaders of the biggest companies.

But let’s be honest. This isn’t easy.

+ It’s hard when family members don’t understand our choices.

+ It stings when friends don’t align with our values.

+ It’s frustrating when colleagues, the market, or board members dismiss our perspective.

Our first instinct might be to try harder to win them over. To explain, defend, or even question ourselves.

And of course, there is a time and a place for that.

But what about doing the opposite?

- Letting go of our need to be right
- Letting go of our need to be seen
- Letting go of our need to be acknowledged

I believe it takes courage to recognise that when others don't accept us, or our ideas, it's more about them that us.

In their lack of acceptance, they are themselves seeking acceptance from you, and from others. They themselves are needing to feel right, and of worth.

When we stop needing approval, we reclaim our power. We can fully accept others without losing face. We can focus on what really matters: living authentically and living in alignment with our deeper truths.

This approach isn't about winning, or making things easy for ourself, but it does create space for something greater - self-trust, inner peace, and surprising moments of connection, when acceptance does arrive.

I'd love to know what’s your experience is with this.

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As a coach, I am passionate about combining ancient wisdom with the practical application of modern self-development to empower ambitious individuals and teams on their journeys of transformation and growth.

I support and guide those who dare to dream, to get out of their own way, so that they can live more fully, with clarity, success and confidence.

✨ Are You Living in Alignment with Your Values? ✨

Have you ever felt like life was on autopilot—busy, but not necessarily meaningful? It’s a feeling many of us face, and often, the key to unlocking fulfilment lies in understanding and living by our values.

Your values are your inner compass. They’re the beliefs and principles that define what truly matters to you. But here’s the catch: knowing your values isn’t enough. The real magic happens when you have the courage to live by them.

For a long time I thought I valued “success.” But after taking some time out, I realised that success wasn’t about climbing the corporate ladder for me. Sure, it had it's perks, but it wasn't success that I was really chasing. I love growing, I love exploring what life is all about, and helping others to do the same.

💡 Why does this matter?

When your choices align with your values:
✅ You gain clarity and confidence in your decisions.
✅ Life feels more authentic and meaningful.
✅ You navigate challenges with a sense of purpose.

Living by your values isn’t always easy. It might mean saying no to societal expectations, having tough conversations, or stepping into the unknown. But every courageous step you take brings you closer to a life that feels truly your own.

Here are a few questions to consider:

❓What’s one time in your life when you felt completely alive and fulfilled?
❓What values were present in that moment?
❓What’s a small, courageous action you can take today to honour one of your values?

Living authentically isn’t about grand gestures—it’s about the little, everyday choices that add up to a life that reflects who you truly are.

You can read my latest blog about values, link in the comments below...

🌟 What’s a value that lights you up? Drop it in the comments—I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences!

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Cultivating Joy - October 2024

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